Wamathai Spoken Word – September Edition

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As you may have heard, Wamathai.com has organized a September Edition to its infamous Wamathai Spoken Word.

Please find below the event details.

Wamathai.com presents Wamathai Spoken Word on Thursday the 9th of September 2010 at Secrets Lounge (Ground floor,View Park Towers – Next to Alliance Francaise) from 7 – 10 PM and the program is as follows:

* The event will be hosted by Dela
* The poetry performance slots will be open
* Music by: Aziza
* Prose reading by James Ochweri Chiira Maina
* The Screening of short films by Kuweni Serious

Other Details

Charges: Kshs. 150 (at the door)

***Reserve a table by texting 0723160575 (But be there by 7.30 PM)

***Real Cutz shall reward the two most entertaining performers.

***Invite your FB friends to the event here

DON’T MISS IT!!!

All ye twitterholics can find all tweets and yap yaps about the event by searching the hash tag “#WamathaiSept” 😀

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Conversation on Homosexuality

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Some time back I was involved in a heated debate on a certain list serve I’m part of and I thought the following was quite an interesting take. Yes, I am FOR human rights and thus why this. Hope it sparks some thoughts in you too. It was one of the participants responding to another’s claims. Note: These are not my words, so E.&OE.

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I believe in human rights and advocate for it but on same sex marriage issue I strongly oppose
for the following reasons…

First let me assure you that the last we want is to advocate for same sex marriages, as a community, we feel that marriage has been an institution that has been used to discriminate against persons of LGBTIQ identities and even further entrench heterosexuality as the only valid and recognizable relation between individuals. Secondly,our struggles are so deep and so personal and political that subscribing to the institution of marriage keeps us from defining healthy ways to relate without having oppressive attitudes towards each other, your orientation and gender identity not withstanding. For example, as a woman, I would hate for anyone to think of me as an object of possession – I do not want anyone to pay dowry to my mother because first there is no price for me in monetary or otherwise, other than my precious life and to be expected to change my name to that of the person am getting married to is to invalidate my existence as a person with my own life to live (these are my personal feelings) as I am believer in equality and freedom to be and the marriage institution has proved to be a sexist and patriarchal institution and unless it changes, I want nothing to do with it.

This is not African orientation,brain washed ideas from the west,AFRICANS SHOULD REMAIN AFRICANS.DID YOUR GRAND FATHERS INVOLVE IN SUCH ACTS?

That must be stopped. I can go on and on with examples of healthy same sex relations that existed in very many African traditions, but if you want to chose to retain that argument, I will point you to your reference to Christianity and Islam, both of which are not indigenous to Africans, these religions were introduced to Africa by the same westerners you claim to have brain washed all the queer persons in Africa. And in the queer community we have people of all generations which goes far into explaining that sexual orientation and gender identity are inherent and not choices we make, the terms we use are borrowed from the English language gay lesbian, etc. and thus might not denote our lives as queer Africans and hence our desire to define ourselves within our African context,this however does not nullify our rightful existence as queer persons in Africa and does not call for blanket condemnation and invalidation of our being.

Why are our reproductive [parts] different because am a woman and the the other is a man. Its wrong biblically, Koran wise and indigenous wise. Who will marry us?

You will be married by the person you fall in love with, that person you make the choice to live the rest of your life with, that is a personal choice and we all have that opportunity to pursue any relationship and engagement that contributes to our well being. All the queer Kenyans would also want to indulge in that choice, of choosing the partner they want to share a life with, and our biological anatomy is a question that needs to be revised in relating with ourselves, should the fact that I have breasts and a vagina mean that I am only good for reproduction? That my role in the world is to reproduce and that’s it? I advocate for sexual rights and autonomy because sexuality is an intrinsic factor of all human beings, and it is interlinked with every other aspect of our lives. In this case we need to move beyond defining ourselves by our biological anatomy to a holistic approach to self identity…where all the attributes of my living are respected and acknowledged as the combination that allows me to experience life to the best most highest standards of potential and lived life.

I welcome all those who are ready to share,learn and engage in seeking social justice.
Amandhla!

Somewhere in the conversation I saw this interesting equation.

Genes + Brain Wiring + Prenatal Hormonal Environment = Temperament
Parents + Peers + Experiences = Environment
Temperament + Environment = Sexual Orientation

Then came this equally interesting fact.

Population of gays in the world??

One can say with 95% confidence that the maximum margin of sampling error is ±5%. that is, 5% of the 6 billion people in the world.

So will the human race decimate?

Quite fascinating conversation eh? All I can say is:

I yearn for the day when “HUMAN” will be the only label we brandish ourselves.

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30 Day Challenge!

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Today is one of those days. Bored. Not feeling it. Bleh! Bleh! Bleh!

But I choose not to go with the flow. The flow here being myself. The other me is taking sides. And slapping the bored me right smack in the face and telling her, “You can kiss my cute butt goodbye!”  I sure wish her the best though, they still live in one body. Hmm..where was I..oh! 30 Day Challenge! I got this from a friend and thought I should give it a try. Sounds interesting, no?

Day 1: 5 interesting facts about yourself.
Day 2: The meaning behind your name.
Day 3: About your friends.
Day 4: About your family.
Day 5: A photo of something you really hate.
Day 6: A song that makes you cry.
Day 7: Your crush.
Day 8: Something you hate about yourself.
Day 9: Your definition of love.
Day 10: Your best friend.
Day 11: A letter to one of your exes.
Day 12: Your favorite female group.
Day 13: Your least favorite female group.
Day 14: Something you love about yourself.
Day 15: What you would if you were pregnant or got someone pregnant.
Day 16: A photo that makes you smile.
Day 17: A photo that makes you want to cry.
Day 18: A letter to someone you miss.
Day 19: A habit you wish you didn’t have.
Day 20: A letter to your parents.
Day 21: Short goals you wish to fulfill by the end of the month.
Day 22: Your nicknames & why you have them.
Day 23: What you would find in your bag.
Day 24: A song that makes you smile.
Day 25: How you found out about blogger & why you made one.
Day 26: First 10 songs to play on shuffle on your iPod.
Day 27: Your fashion style.
Day 28: What attracts you to someone.
Day 29: Future plans/goals.
Day 30: Who are you?

By the time I get to no.30 I wonder if I shall be able to define the question. Maybe that’s the point. Yea, I think that’s the point!

So lets get on with it!

p.s. Its not like its gonna be every friggin day! Al pick random days mpaka when am done. Cool!!

Challenge yourself today!


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The Princess Project (K) Tuesdays

Today’s PPK Post.

Bad Dreams

Posted: August 20, 2010 by She Blossoms… in Creekside Princess

I wake up, it’s a bad dream

No one on my side

I was fighting

But I just feel too tired

To be fighting

Guess I’m not the fighting kind

2nd Stanza of Bad Dreams by Keane

Sometimes, you wake up, and you just can’t get out of the bad dream. Most of the time, you just need to hold on just a little longer, and things get better. That does not mean you should stay in a bad place hoping it will get better. You have the power and the ability to make your world a better place. And if the axis it is stuck on just cannot change, you need to remind yourself what a unique and talented person you are, and then head out and find a world that is just right for who you are. Whatever the case, remember :

Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing.

This week on The Princess Project we made a stop at in Nandi with a review of The shrunken dream by Jane Tapsubei Creider.

Then we sipped at some poetry with Poetic Wednesday: The Lost Tear.

We have had some quiet in the Queen Stories. We need your help. If you know an extraordinary lady who derserves to be acknowledged please feel free to nominate them by sending an email to us at thequeenstories@gmail.com. Don’t let those special women go on without knowing just how special they are.

And to what you have been waiting for; this week’s episode of  Creekside Princess – The Big City!

Sherlock Holmes

Gaby grinned, hoped that Chris wouldn’t tell how fake that grin was, either. “Yes, I can. I thought Mombasa was the only place where crazy things happen.”

Gaby sighed, and started to get the chairs up on tables in the lounge area. It was routine. Sometime after midnight on weekdays, the clientele would dwindle out. Chris would probably have to get the odd plastered customer out and get a taxi cab for him. And Gaby would be getting cleaning up at the bar. Then Chris would come in to help put the chairs up so that the cleaning crew would have it easy to go over the floor as fast as possible.

He was looking at her with a curious expression. Gaby knew that no matter how tough he acted, what had happened last night had jarred him. But he did not have a choice. His reason for lack of choice was different from hers. He simply had no choice, because this was his life. Read the rest…

Thank you so much for stopping by and have a superb weekend.

Do you have something to tell the Princess out there? We welcome Mzee Articles: Pieces on personal experience overcoming trial or going through the staircase of life. We would also welcome Girl Royal Articles: How to and Skills from a personal perspective. Please drop us a line at theprincessprojectafrica@gmail.com.

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TGIFurahidays!

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Thank God Its Furahiday!!!

Yeah baeybey!! *insert Austin Powers voice n facial expressions* LOL!! But Fridays are overrated eh?

Today I am feeling

Kind of ish ish. Some skeletons from the closet have resurfaced and I need to deal with them. The good thing is that I am a different kind of person now. I don’t tolerate nonsense and I completely believe in people keeping it real and true to themselves. There are better things in life to look out for than poking noses into other people’s businesses!

I am thankful for…

…a lot of things. Notice I changed that from “I am excited about”. Reason being that I realised how much I have to be thankful for and somehow I never mention it. Granted I do mention it to myself now and then, but somehow one forgets to show how thankful one is. I am indeed thankful that I am alive, that my life is smooth (yes, it does have rough edges but that’s how life is), that I have loved ones who truly care, and that I am me; this wonderful person who loves humanity, unique and gifted, multitalented and amazing. All thanks to my Creator. *bows down in humility*

On this weekend…

It will be a busy one. But most of my weekends are indeed busy. So much to do so little time. In the end, I gain more and more. Oh, and I wanna begin watching True Blood. I wonder how that will play out. And of course, dealing with the skeletons. We all have them!

I am sooo craving…

Double chocolate fudge cake! Gosh the pic says all! 😛

I just wish…

…that life was easier, simpler. That people would stop meddling in other’s businesses. That they’d focus on their own lives. That we humans could deal with our inner selves and not focus on the outer. That we’d see that there is more to it than meets the eye. That human beings could live together in (more) harmony. That Kenya can weave itself out of tribalism, nepotism, neo-colonialism and other BS that we keep dealing with day in day out…. I could go on and on but I’ll leave that for another day.

This inspired me…

Thanks siz..she is inspiring!

Have a fantabulous Furahiday!

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As Nature Made Him: A Book Review

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I have never done a book review before. So here goes.

This is a book review of a book called “As Nature Made Him; The boy who was raised as a girl”. Its a real-life story about the life of David Reimer. But first, let me copy-paste the info I got from elsewhere.

As Nature Made Him (John Colapinto)

This book is based on The True Story of John/Joan, orginally published in Rolling Stone. The so-called twins, or John/Joan case, is one of the most famous in modern medicine and the social sciences, cited repeatedly over the past thirty years as proof that our sense of being male or female is not inborn but primarily the result of how we are raised.The case set the precedent for sex reassignment as standard treatment for thousands of intersex children every year. But now David Reimer, the subject of this misguided experiment, has come forward to tell how it was a failure from the outset. Read chapter excerpt at MSNBC.

As Nature Made Him: The Boy Who Was Raised as a Girl by John Colapinto, HarperCollins (2000). (Amazon.com)

David Reimer (August 22, 1965 as Bruce Reimer – May 5, 2004) was a Canadian man who was born as a healthy male, but was sexually reassigned and raised as female after his penis was accidentally destroyed during circumcision. PsychologistJohn Money oversaw the case and reported the reassignment as successful, and as evidence that gender identity is primarily learned. Academic sexologist Milton Diamond later reported that Reimer never identified as female, and that he began living as male at age 15. Reimer later went public with his story to discourage similar medical practices. Due to years of severe depression, financial instability, and a dissolving marriage, he committed suicide. (Read more thanks to Wikipedia)

My 2 cents:

He was born Bruce and was twin brother to Brian. In the family’s culture, circumcising children at a tender age was the norm. So the two were circumcised. Bruce was the first of the two to be circumcised. The doctors used a new method to circumcise him. That method went terribly wrong and Bruce’s penis was destroyed. Actually it was burnt! They called it a botched circumcision. Bruce now only had a portion of his penis and bits of the scrotum. A doctor called John Money who was the pioneer in the sexuality of children advised them that, in keeping with his beliefs of the fact that nurture trumps nature, they should reassign the child to female as he would not have a normal life as a male without a penis. This was also concluded due to the fact that, in the medical world, it is said that its easier to dig a hole than to build a pole.

Growing up, Bruce, now Brenda, had a terrible child hood. It was clear from an early age that the reassignment failed miserably and that Brenda’s manly instincts took control over what she was being told to behave like; like a girl. Anything to convince her that she was a girl and girls behaved in a certain manner was futile. She was stronger than her brother Brian, she fought with boys in school and was even nicknamed “tom-boy” in school. She always had a ‘rough look’ and demeanour.

When Brenda reach pre-pubescent age, she was required to begin hormone replacement therapy in order to begin feminizing her body and avert any possible masculinization. She refused incessantly. By this age she had been through several psychiatrist who all had one goal in mind: to nurture her into a proper girl, in accordance to John Money’s instructions and belief.

Another doctor on the other side of the country had been challenging Dr. Money’s beliefs about nurture over nature and he was of the contrary opinion. His name was Dr. Milton Diamond. Dr. Diamond believed that nature tramped nurture every time and that there was no way a normal baby boy could be ‘nurtured’ into a girl. He believed that ones true sense of being either male or female (or neither or both) was intrinsically hard wired into their brain.

After wars between doctors, psychiatrists and her parents, Brenda at age 14 grew tired of living a lie and made the switch from Brenda to David. He picked the name because of the bible character’s ability to withstand magnanimous trials and tribulations. He went ahead to join high school and was a much happier kid than ever before.

After spending almost half his life living a lie, David Reimer managed to get a wife and children. In the book, he portrays himself as a happier man. His message is clear. One cannot ‘make’ a child to either male or female. Its the child that knows themselves. For thirty years, the medical fraternity had been getting it wrong. Children born with ambiguous genitalia or boys who suffered botched circumcisions were being reassigned to girl hood and hence most of them were being thrown into pits of hell!

I loved this book. It was the first I had read in a long long time. I was completely moved by it and I absolutely recommend it where you can find it.

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The Princess Project (K) Tuesdays

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My beloved readers, Wassup!!

Ok, so I was approached by Juliet Maruru of The Princess Project (K) to be doing a weekly post from their blog (hope you’ve clicked the link o-sth.) and because its a girls’ project, I couldn’t say no! The weekly post will be appearing on Tuesdays unless otherwise stated.

Enjoy the read my lovelies!

Arranging Your Bags of Gold

Posted: August 13, 2010 by lybelious punk in Uncategorized

Everybody wants money. All of us want to have financial security and some of us have this need for exaggerated wealth. That is why from the moment we reach the age of majority we start thinking about the future and how we can make it sunny by earning money, investing it and saving it as well. This week the Marvin Tumbo, an economics wizard, gives us some insight on financial planning and the importance of getting the right information from the right people.

Financial Industry Blogging

I would like to see a Kenyan blog on unit trusts, on hedge funding, on futures and options, on mortgage financing and how not to buy a house on a road reserve, on banking in general, on the NSE and CMA, on financial ethics, on insurance – all types of insurance, on financial advice, on how-to’s like how to choose one bank over another based on your financial needs and how to make online transactions safely etc. A blog taking apart the accounts being ran by the various banks – the charges, hidden charges, benefits, loopholes etc, basically, a blog on everything finance – from simple to complex concepts. Read the rest here.

This week the book review is on A Durable Fire by Barbara and Stephanie Keating. The book tells a very interesting story of loss, revenge and love that reminds me of Gaby’s story in the Creekside Series. The review by Stella Riunga gives a thorough insight on the book that you would not want to miss out on.

Don’t forget to check out Poetic Wednesday on Poetic License and comment and vote for your favorite poem.

Webisode 7 of Creekside Princess- The Big City will be ready for you next week and Gaby will be playing detective after the fiasco that harassed her in A Mystery.

Thank you so much for stopping by and have a superb weekend.

Do you have something to tell the Princess out there? We welcome Mzee Articles: Pieces on personal experience overcoming trial or going through the staircase of life. We would also welcome Girl Royal Articles: How to and Skills from a personal perspective. Please drop us a line at theprincessprojectafrica@gmail.com.

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